Emma went back to school this morning, and we did our best to prepare her for what may happen.
I spoke to her on Facetime (like Skype on an iPhone), while she was out at lunch with Aunt Kim. (Kimberly is having a girl date with Emma today to help her realize how loved she is and has friends! So thankful to her for that.)
She told me all about what they did at school and then said "D didn't say anything mean to me today! She came up to me and said "Emma, Adam is absent!" I was so surprised!!"
I'm backing down off high alert and going to assume it was a poor choice of words on her friends part, or simply a strange way to get attention. It's tough to know when it's "nothing" or when a pattern is emerging. However, it has always been, and will continue to be, a priority of ours to help the kids develop friends in different circles, like school, church, sports or just family friends, so that should the unthinkable happen with one friend or group, they have other friends to turn to.
It's not easy! Time is always in short supply in our home. With work, and our privilege in serving at the church, finding time to relax with our grown-up friends requires great planning. I try to arrange playdates on my weekdays off, or when Scott is working, so we don't miss out on the times when we are all home.
But we consciously chose that, as a family, we would value people and relationships, not the almighty $$ or upgrading our stuff. It can make life challenging, when you are faced with direct choices, but we're learning as we go, and hope that our legacy will not be what we leave behind in our will, but who we loved well and impacted with our lives.
I spoke to her on Facetime (like Skype on an iPhone), while she was out at lunch with Aunt Kim. (Kimberly is having a girl date with Emma today to help her realize how loved she is and has friends! So thankful to her for that.)
She told me all about what they did at school and then said "D didn't say anything mean to me today! She came up to me and said "Emma, Adam is absent!" I was so surprised!!"
I'm backing down off high alert and going to assume it was a poor choice of words on her friends part, or simply a strange way to get attention. It's tough to know when it's "nothing" or when a pattern is emerging. However, it has always been, and will continue to be, a priority of ours to help the kids develop friends in different circles, like school, church, sports or just family friends, so that should the unthinkable happen with one friend or group, they have other friends to turn to.
It's not easy! Time is always in short supply in our home. With work, and our privilege in serving at the church, finding time to relax with our grown-up friends requires great planning. I try to arrange playdates on my weekdays off, or when Scott is working, so we don't miss out on the times when we are all home.
But we consciously chose that, as a family, we would value people and relationships, not the almighty $$ or upgrading our stuff. It can make life challenging, when you are faced with direct choices, but we're learning as we go, and hope that our legacy will not be what we leave behind in our will, but who we loved well and impacted with our lives.
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