Quote of the Day

In the car, on the way to the playground...

Emma:  Daddy, do you know Meschach, Shadrach and Abednego?

Scott: Yes.

Emma:  When they were in the fire, why didn't they get burned?  When people go in fire they get burned.

Scott:  Because Jesus was in there with them and he protected them.

Emma:  Toby - do you believe in Jesus?

Toby: Yes.

Emma:  Then you're not going to hell.

Daniel 1-3

The nation of Israel had been invaded and exiled to Babylon (allowed by God because of refusal to listen to God).  King Nebuchadnezzer was on the throne...

Then the king ordered Ashpenaz, chief of his court officials, to bring into the king’s service some of the Israelites from the royal family and the nobility— young men without any physical defect, handsome, showing aptitude for every kind of learning, well informed, quick to understand, and qualified to serve in the king’s palace. He was to teach them the language and literature of the Babylonians.  The king assigned them a daily amount of food and wine from the king’s table. They were to be trained for three years, and after that they were to enter the king’s service.  Among those who were chosen were some from Judah: Daniel, Hananiah, Mishael and Azariah. The chief official gave them new names: to Daniel, the name Belteshazzar; to Hananiah, Shadrach; to Mishael, Meshach; and to Azariah, Abednego.

But Daniel resolved not to defile himself with the royal food and wine, and he asked the chief official for permission not to defile himself this way. Now God had caused the official to show favor and compassion to Daniel, but the official told Daniel, “I am afraid of my lord the king, who has assigned your food and drink. Why should he see you looking worse than the other young men your age? The king would then have my head because of you.”

Daniel then said to the guard whom the chief official had appointed over Daniel, Hananiah, Mishael and Azariah, “Please test your servants for ten days: Give us nothing but vegetables to eat and water to drink. Then compare our appearance with that of the young men who eat the royal food, and treat your servants in accordance with what you see.” So he agreed to this and tested them for ten days.

At the end of the ten days they looked healthier and better nourished than any of the young men who ate the royal food. So the guard took away their choice food and the wine they were to drink and gave them vegetables instead.

To these four young men God gave knowledge and understanding of all kinds of literature and learning. And Daniel could understand visions and dreams of all kinds.

Daniel 1: 3-17

Then the king placed Daniel in a high position and lavished many gifts on him. He made him ruler over the entire province of Babylon and placed him in charge of all its wise men. Moreover, at Daniel’s request the king appointed Shadrach, Meshach and Abednego administrators over the province of Babylon, while Daniel himself remained at the royal court.

Daniel 2: 48-49 

King Nebuchadnezzar made an image of gold, sixty cubits high and six cubits wide, and set it up on the plain of Dura in the province of Babylon. He then summoned the satraps, prefects, governors, advisers, treasurers, judges, magistrates and all the other provincial officials to come to the dedication of the image he had set up.

Then the herald loudly proclaimed, “Nations and peoples of every language, this is what you are commanded to do: As soon as you hear the sound of the horn, flute, zither, lyre, harp, pipe and all kinds of music, you must fall down and worship the image of gold that King Nebuchadnezzar has set up. Whoever does not fall down and worship will immediately be thrown into a blazing furnace.”

Daniel 3:1-6 (abridged)

At this time some astrologers came forward and denounced the Jews. They said to King Nebuchadnezzar, “there are some Jews whom you have set over the affairs of the province of Babylon—Shadrach, Meshach and Abednego—who pay no attention to you, Your Majesty. They neither serve your gods nor worship the image of gold you have set up.”

 

Furious with rage, Nebuchadnezzar summoned Shadrach, Meshach and Abednego. So these men were brought before the king, and Nebuchadnezzar said to them, “Is it true, Shadrach, Meshach and Abednego, that you do not serve my gods or worship the image of gold I have set up?  Now when you hear the sound of the horn, flute, zither, lyre, harp, pipe and all kinds of music, if you are ready to fall down and worship the image I made, very good. But if you do not worship it, you will be thrown immediately into a blazing furnace. Then what god will be able to rescue you from my hand?”

Shadrach, Meshach and Abednego replied to him, “King Nebuchadnezzar, we do not need to defend ourselves before you in this matter. If we are thrown into the blazing furnace, the God we serve is able to deliver us from it, and he will deliver us from Your Majesty’s hand But even if he does not, we want you to know, Your Majesty, that we will not serve your gods or worship the image of gold you have set up.”

Then Nebuchadnezzar was furious with Shadrach, Meshach and Abednego, and his attitude toward them changed. He ordered the furnace heated seven times hotter than usual and commanded some of the strongest soldiers in his army to tie up Shadrach, Meshach and Abednego and throw them into the blazing furnace. So these men, wearing their robes, trousers, turbans and other clothes, were bound and thrown into the blazing furnace.  

The king’s command was so urgent and the furnace so hot that the flames of the fire killed the soldiers who took up Shadrach, Meshach and Abednego, and these three men, firmly tied, fell into the blazing furnace.

Then King Nebuchadnezzar leaped to his feet in amazement and asked his advisers, “Weren’t there three men that we tied up and threw into the fire?”

They replied, “Certainly, Your Majesty.”

He said, “Look! I see four men walking around in the fire, unbound and unharmed, and the fourth looks like a son of the gods.”

Nebuchadnezzar then approached the opening of the blazing furnace and shouted, “Shadrach, Meshach and Abednego, servants of the Most High God, come out! Come here!”

So Shadrach, Meshach and Abednego came out of the fire, and the satraps, prefects, governors and royal advisers crowded around them. They saw that the fire had not harmed their bodies, nor was a hair of their heads singed; their robes were not scorched, and there was no smell of fire on them.

Then Nebuchadnezzar said, “Praise be to the God of Shadrach, Meshach and Abednego, who has sent his angel and rescued his servants! They trusted in him and defied the king’s command and were willing to give up their lives rather than serve or worship any god except their own God. Therefore I decree that the people of any nation or language who say anything against the God of Shadrach, Meshach and Abednego be cut into pieces and their houses be turned into piles of rubble, for no other god can save in this way.”

Daniel 3: 8-29

Interestingly, the guys names in the text were those used by the Babylonians, but their original Hebrew names were:

• Hananiah means "God who is gracious"
• Misha'el means "Who is like God?”, also means "to feed" or "to provide"—as in how a husband provides for his family
• Azariah appropriately means "God has helped"

Often situations in life feel like a fiery furnace.  We might even be able to escape them by compromising on what we know to be right.  However, when we honor God and take a stand for what's right, He is with us and brings us through.

Escaping the fire may seem like the best option for relief, but fire has purpose, to refine us and burn off the impurities.  And, “how would a man benefit to gain the whole world but destroy his soul or lose it?”  Luke 9:25

Love and Respect

This Friday Scott and I are hosting a video conference of the Love and Respect Marriage Conference at church.  I'm so excited!!  

We have been reviewing the DVD's that we bought at the live conference in February.  It's a little tough to hear and realize the ways that you might have been contributing to your spouse feeling unloved or disrespected, however unintentional.  

In fact, it's so easy over the course of years for comments or attitudes to buld up walls between us.  Each day something little can be an irritant, like a wet towel on the floor or dirty shoes walked through the house.  Like a grain of sand in your eye, that irritant can cause major damage if left unchecked.  

But we need to give our spouse grace, choose to remember that they are basically a good-willed person who is not trying to hurt us.  Then we might be a little less irritated by the habit and a little quicker to love and respect them the way they deserve, the way God calls us to love and respect them.

It is our hope and prayer that people will come (30 signed up, others may just come) and find a new understanding of how they can meet the needs of their spouse, and have their own needs met.  

If we can help just one marriage find new life it will be worth the work.  I spoke to a lady who is new to our church.  Her marriage of many years is not a happy one and she is determined not to quit on it.  I prayed with her and she was able to persuade her husband to come!!  I know this will open up conversation and hopefully restoration in their marriage - it's never too late!

I was really excited to find the blog of Dr. Eggerichs and his wife at http://emersonandsarah.blogspot.com/ - this will be my new daily read.  Check out this great testimonial they posted:

We’ve been talking about wedding anniversaries and romantic expectations… and how to get free from the blame game. 

Here’s a story from a wise wife who made a powerful discovery about her wedding anniversary:

My husband and I attended your seminar and it opened my eyes in so many ways.  I realized what was missing in the way I respond to him and how I've been disrespectful towards him causing him to respond in unloving ways.  All this time I'm blaming him and asking and praying for God to change him.

Last weekend was our 17th anniversary.  He's such a golf fanatic that I told him my gift for him would be for him to play golf at a golf course of his choice and money is no object.  To top it off, I told him that I'd caddie for him - drive the golf cart for him and whatever else a caddie does. He was excited the morning of our anniversary while getting ready for golf - he couldn't believe it.  Once we arrived at the golf course, he was telling everyone how that day was my anniversary gift for him and that l would even caddie for him.  I could tell he was so proud.  It was a VIP golf course and we were treated as such the whole time and he couldn't believe it.  All of the guys were saying they wish their wives would do the same for them and one actually shook my hand and thanked me for what I did for my husband and said that men need more wives like me. You can say that my husband had a smile the whole time and he said he actually shot his best score ever. 

I've always (thought) our anniversary is all about me and that he better have a nice gift for me.  You have changed that for me and I never would have thought of thinking about what would make him happy.....Thank you so much!!!!  

What I love about this story is not only did this wife make a powerful realization – that marriage isn’t all about her – but she acted on it.  Though golf was not her idea of romance, she discovered a deeper joy in giving her husband the gift of respect.  I’m quite sure her husband would say that was their most romantic anniversary ever!

We had a really busy weekend, which was totally fine!  Emma was a little whiny Friday night, but the pajamas were enough to sooth any issues!

Saturday Emma had Lainey over to play and they were seemingly running around as normal! 

(Scott took Toby fishing at a little creek, where they caught a big fish that snapped the line...)

Saturday afternoon we went to a kids party on the church playground, where Emma climbed, swung, slid and even bounced on the bouncy castle!  I had to remind her that she should not swing on her belly and even hang from the monkey bars! 

Interestingly, when we got home in the early evening she tried to say she could not sit up on the sofa (from where she was laying) because her belly hurt!  Pain for kids really is an issue of convenience, much like listening!!

Yesterday she was fine at church and with friends as normal.  She's eating as much as ever and I even saw her sleeping on her belly during the night!

She's happy to flash her belly to anyone who wants to see, and is convinced every day the scar is getting smaller!

So, she went to PT and school today as normal, and will no doubt use her belly to get her out of anything she does not want to do!

Good to be home

It took almost two hours to get home after I woke Emma, traffic was that bad - it's only 15miles!!  Luckily we had picked up a bag of cheddar popcorn earlier in the day and Emma worked on that from leaving her room in the PACU all the way to the mall...

She had not drank all day! Even with IV fluids, I don't know how she didn't choke on it.

Toby and Scott met us at the mall, and Emma got her "Jessie" pajamas (excellent guidance on my part since she needs PJs for the winter!)...

At some point today I extended "a toy" to two items which became "two princesses"!

Emma managed to eat a full kids meal even after the popcorn, and then had a drink.  NOTHING gets between this girl and her food.  Even at 9pm she finished off Toby's fries from earlier...

 Aren't they just SO cute!

I did take Emma to the mirror so she could see what her belly looks like, much like mine did, but higher than her belly button.  I said she needed to be careful for a few days, even though they gave us no formal restrictions on activities.  She claimed later to find sitting up on the bed hurt, which could be true.

The cool thing is our scars kind of match, same size proportionally and a dark red line.  I think it gave her some comfort to know I had a similar booboo and now it's fine.  In fact hers should be much less uncomfortable and is covered in a glue that protects it for a week or so.

I just wanted to share one of the many videos that Emma begged me to make after taking the "giggle juice" pre-op...

When the anesthetist came back to see if it was working she told him the "juice" tasted like snail slime, but was good!

Emma truly is the model patient and if it wasn't for her great attitude (motivated by new toys or not) today and all the other appointments would be hell.  I hope she does decide to be a doctor, like she told the nurse in her chemically-altered state!

In Recovery

When I got back to Emma she was very weepy and clingy (which I
secretly love), and I soon held her on my lap in the rocking chair.

We couldn't leave right away because the anesthetist wanted to debrief
me. That turned out to be a good thing because she soon fell asleep
again.

She was mad that we couldn't leave right away, but I'm glad we stayed.
She refused a drink for falling asleep and started to get some
congestion in her throat.

I heard the SATs monitor beep, a sound from long ago but not
forgotten. The nurse tried to reposition her to open her airway since
she was not awake to cough.

Of course, only I would know that her best position is on her right
side, and laid her down before suctioning her mouth.

The smells, the sounds, the procedures, all so familiar and I'm
comfortable with them. It's weird!

Anyway, I plan to wake her up in a few minutes and fulfill my promises!

She's out, went great. Waiting to go back now.

They started surgery at 12:48pm.

Pre-Op

Well, today is the day!  We arrived at the hospital around 9:15am and Emma was full of energy and personality, as usual.

When Scott and I talked about today I told him my main concern would be the late start.  Emma likes to eat a big breakfast, but she was not allowed to eat after 11pm last night, and no fluids after 7am!!  My solution: promise the lunch of her choice when we get done. No surprise she picked Chick Fil A!

The other issue was that we had no time to get her a post-op toy!  She really wants a Chica (from Sprout) plush and has been saving her money to get one, but I didn't think I had time to get one.  So instead I opted to tell her we would go to the Disney Store after lunch and she could choose her own toy, or Jessie pajamas, which she has wanted for years!  

Both promises are working a treat in encouraging cooperation! Of course, she is hungry and thirsty, but she has an incredible ability to think long-term!

Right now we are chilling in pre-op...

We just had a visit from anesthesia who delivered the first (and hopefully only) surprise of the day.  They are going to intubate her for the surgery.  That means putting a tube down her throat.  The last time in May they just used gas, but this is a little longer and they want to be safe.

Since she was very little she has had the label "critical airway" which flagged her for breathing problems and requiring special equipment and extra personnel.  Today they are going to see if that's still the case, which it may be because she can't open her mouth very wide.

The impact will likely be sore throat, and may be longer recovery time, if not admission.  Only time will tell, so we are being patient!

I'll keep you posted.

A baby story

On Sunday we all went to Melissa's baby shower.  (Melissa was Emma's therapist until she turned three, but was really more my emotional support and we stayed friends after Emma transitioned from Early Intervention.  Just a little history for the new people!)

Anyway, Melissa and husband Keith are expecting Leighton around Emma's birthday and we're so excited for them.  

Not many pictures, but a couple...

Checking out the golf course...

After our crazy weekend, Scott had no energy to resist the kids ideas...

Surgery #7

Todays appointment was not so scary for me.  I felt confident that they were going to recommend surgery, after all, you can't leave someone with a leaky hole in their belly, and 9 months should have been plenty of time if it would heal.  

Unfortunately we had to wait a bit, a good 40 minutes in the room before anyone came in (and that after I had "enquired" about waiting any longer!).  I'm no rookie though, and had brought a bag of gummy bears with me to pacify the kids.  That works, but after about 30 minutes Toby starts rolling on the floors etc which is unacceptable to me!

Anyway, as we sat and watched I was taken aback at how far we've come.  I could remember Emma sitting on this bed as an infant, then a toddler...

And here she is now, such a big girl, full of promise...

The doctors all see it too, and her doctor, as always takes a picture and texts it to his colleague, and Emma's original surgeon.  I can only imagine how cool it is to save a baby's life only to see them blossom into a healthy kid.

Sure enough, it's time for surgery and Scott and I decided last night to try and get it done quickly.  I asked for a Friday to get the weekend for extra recovery, but I wasn't expecting to get THIS Friday!  Well, there's no time like the present and this is one of few weekends this fall we have nothing planned. 

I thought the timing would be perfect because, well, it looks like Scott will be laid off sometime in the next week, but since he may still have work Friday I may take her by myself.  I'd never consider it if we hadn't just been through it 5 months ago, but it seems doable.  

The surgery itself should actually be a blessing!  Here's why:  The current site (top illustration by doctor and dark circle in photo) is a hole surrounded by a ring of scar tissue.  It's not pretty.

The surgeon will cut out the whole hole (!) and then stitch each layer back up (see bottom illustration).

The result should looke more like the scar you can barely see on the lower right of the photo, a faint white line.  That will be much less disfiguring for Emma (even though she will not be allowed to bare her belly ever, says her protective Dad!!).  (The other big scar is where her belly got stitched up as a baby.)

So, in all, surgery: good!  I'm less nervous about the anesthesia because she just had it and they will follow the same procedure, may even be the same guys!  The whole thing is in God's hands and we will be praying for Him to annoint the surgeons with wisdom and skill.

I'll let you know what happens post-surgery!

Say a little prayer

So, I don't often do this (I think), but I'm asking for your prayers.  Tomorrow Emma has a follow-up appointment with the general surgeon at the hospital.  We were expecting this to be the last appointment, however we have noticed increasingly that the hole where her g-tube was is leaking.  That means it has not fully closed, after 9 months. 

From what I have read, they will likely need to do a surgery with general anesthesia to close it properly.  I'm sure it's not a "big deal", but it is an ordeal!  Plus, I'll have to find a suitable "reward"!!

Anyway, please keep Emma in your prayers.  If surgery is necessary, let it be soon and straight forward!

Thanks.  I'll let you know what happens.

Wonderful Wedding

On Saturday we all went to Scott's cousins wedding in Lancaster.  It was a beautiful day, great venue and lovely ceremony...

Even though the ceremony was less than 30 minutes, Scott kept the kids outside as they were noisy after napping on the car ride and would've been disruptive!

All the decorations were gorgeous..

 

The ceremony space was transformed for dinner and dancing...

The best part about being so close with Scott's family is that the kids all know each other.  So it was basically a play date in nice dresses!!  Here Lainey (flower girl), Emma and Paige all posed happily!

 

Emma was in complete awe of the whole thing!  When she first saw the bride and groom (after the ceremony) she asked me "is that her prince?"  Aww!!

Toby really wanted his picture with them, but was too shy and hung back...

The kids all drank their water from wine glasses so they all felt so grown-up!!

Then it was time for dancing, and after being held back for the traditional wedding dances, Emma was raring to go and the others soon followed...

Emma even got Pops up to dance!!

Toby and Paige called a ceasefire on their usual brawling to dance together a few times.  In the background you can see Emma dancing with Josh, the son of another of Scott's cousins.  

The bride and groom were the kids favorite dance partners, so I had to keep telling them to let them dance together!!

They sat out the Cha-Cha slide a few times, only to give it ago later...

At times the music was too loud for Emma,

But she managed to get Scott to dance, which was more than I did!!

The kids were even the center of the party!

The party went on till 10pm (wedding started at 4:30pm) and we were all exhausted.  Toby and Paige were reluctant to get off the dance floor, but we soon had the kids in their pajamas and in the car for the ride home. 

The kids first wedding was a huge success (in their eyes) and hopefully the rest of the guests agreed.  The photographers did not stop taking pictures of them, which only emboldened them more!

Abby Birthday

If you haven't already guessed, September has been a busy month already, and with birthdays coming up there is no calm on the horizon!  I am learning to embrace the chaos.  It's been a slow realization that I don't want to live my life searching for a "peace" that comes from having nothing to do.  There is a certain amount of healthy tension that comes from having a busy schedule and limited resources.  It's helping me to rely on God, and not sweat the small stuff!

The kind of peace I am searching for is one that I have experienced at the craziest and hardest times of my life.  It's not circumstantial, it's spiritual.  I'm asking God to give me that inner peace on a daily basis, that helps me look for the joy in trials and the lessons in failing. 

One place is great for bringing about tension and that's the beach!  That is where we were last weekend for Abby's birthday party.  The kids were looking forward to it for weeks, especially as we don't get to see her family often.  The kids had so much fun when they came to visit us on vacation at the beach in July.

The weather forecast was volatile, but sun won out, with a healthy measure of strong winds (which claimed the life of our awesome tent!)

The kids had fun, and I got to relax while Scott was the perfect Dad, helping [all] the kids build stuff in the sand!

We got to fly kites for the first time, and they even brought a Doc McStuffins cake to the beach!!

After all of that, we had some dinner with Abby's family before heading home.

Real People, Real Miracles

This is an extract from the blog of one of the missionary families Scott worked with in Ecuador.  I encourage you to visit the link at the bottom to hear how this incredible, true story ended...

The Machete Incident - Pt. I

The Monday morning of September 19th started out fairly normal except for the fact that it was our first day of doing homeschool with Sophia & Zak. If you told me I’d be in the “dog house” by nightfall, I’d be the first to say, “yah, I probably deserve that”! But a night in jail? – that was definitely not on my radar! Here’s how it all unfolded: 

After visiting our local clinic, a young Shuar man knocked on our gate hoping I could help he and his wife get back to their village, Untunkus Norte. She had given birth two weeks prior and was not ready for the two hour trek up hill. For $5, a taxi truck can make it in about 20 minutes, so I called for one, we piled in and I put my bike in the back for the downhill ride home. It was a perfect opportunity to visit with several families who live there, most of them are related to Pastor Eduardo who is an integral part of our ministry team. I enjoyed playing with the kids, checked on Camilo’s new baby boy, shucked some of Umberto’s corn, then had a delicious lunch of cow intestines, corn & yucca prepared by Umberto’s wife, Georgina. We said goodbye then I headed home down the mountain with one short side visit to a neighboring village, San Jose Sur, to pray with a family whose father had just died.

Between the two villages, I rode up on a teenage boy who took one look at me and started running. I didn’t get to say anything to him since he ran off so abruptly. I arrived at Carmela’s house a few minutes later and we had a great 30 minute visit as they shared stories of their father. As I chugged along the beautiful mountain road towards home, I was grinning ear to ear with joy, overwhelmed that I get to be here doing what I’m doing. This peace helped prepare me for what was waiting for me just over the next knoll.

A group of about 20 people gathered in the road/path about 50 yards ahead, machetes are normal to see here, but this time was different. As I approached, it quickly became obvious that I was the subject of their interest. At first I thought they were just upset that I was in Shuar territory so I quickly explained that I was there by invitation of several Shuar who they also knew. That did not matter as it became apparent that a deeper issue was at hand. The teen age boy had run home telling his mother that I had threatened to cut off his head and that I had offered money for heads. This is a line often used to stir up trouble in the jungle because it plays on their long history of fear, superstition, and murderous ways. The boy also had mental issues and I’m sure the adults put him up to much of it. They forced him to stand face to face with me and retell his story. When I heard the phrase, “this Gringo tried to cut my head off”, I knew there was no explaining my way out of it, they were bent on revenge. The boy’s mother was completely wild in my face screaming, “cut off his head, cut off his ears, cut this gringo”! They wanted to see my sword or knife.  Miracle #1 – I always carry a knife but did not this day. I called Ashley on my cell, which happened to have signal (Wouldn’t that make for a great commercial?!) I told her that some people were upset with me and that I needed to get a number of a Shuar pastor who could explain to them who I was. While she was giving me the number someone grabbed the phone as the situation intensified. I never saw the phone again.

Visit richardsonmission.com for the rest of the story.

Stay at home, Mom

Just in case you were interested, I thought I'd let you know what the kids and I got up to while Scott was away!

When Scott was preparing for Ecuador I was not worried about his leaving (love insurance!!) - I was worried about my staying!  He left early Friday morning, and that day we took it easy, went to see The Lorax at church in the evening.  Love family movie night!  But Emma napped and on Friday night, Emma refused to sleep until very late.  

Saturday we had a birthday party at church which lead to no nap and early bedtime!  (Unfortunately that meant Toby was "up" in the night for 3 hours  After letting him watch tv in my room until 5am I put him back in his bed.)

So Sunday, I was a mess and I was doing my very best not to lose my mind!  Thankfully some friends asked us over for dinner, so I was not stuck at home with the kids and nothing much to do. On Sunday afternoon we headed over to Nate's house, and Scott's cousin brought Lainey and Paige for a mega playdate...

Toby is all about the guitar and listening to Garrett, Nate's dad play...

While the girls did their own thing on the giant beanbag...

 Monday I worked.  It was nice to be independent for a few hours, but I knew it would not be fun after being a single parent all week, so I had taken the rest of the week off work!

Tuesday Emma had an audiology test and a pulmonary follow-up.  Her hearing is perfect - the tubes are working!!

In pulmonary the kids got the better of the student doctor and she handed over her stethescope - rookie!

Emma's pulmonologist almost came to tears when he came in and saw (well, heard) how well Emma is doing, especially speech.  He remembered our little blob in the NICU and was speechless, except to tell me there is no reason for him to see her again!  I was quite choked up - it's like saying goodbye to a friend - and crutch!!  

It was great that Scott had free wifi in his hotel down in Ecuador, so I could send him pictures of the kids during the week and keep in touch.

He did call most days, from a payphone or his mobile - there's no escaping technology!  There's no question the kids missed him, and when he would send them a video message, they would watch it over and over.  However, often when he called, they were playing and they either couldn't be bothered to speak to him or just for a moment.  Emma is notorious now for ending a call with "I'm gonna let you go now!"

On Tuesday evening I got the kids to bed early and a couple of my friends came over for the evening.  We watched TV and ate junk food - AWESOME!!

On the days I would normally work, Scott's parents took the kids as normal, allowing me time to run errands, or in this case, head to the Thompson's pool for a swim!!

On the Wednesday night, Scott's cousin, Bevin brought Lainey and Paige over for a sleepover.  The plan: Let the kids play and sleep while we hang out and indulge our Pinterest habit online.  We even made sure everyone could sleep in Emma's room:

The reality was much different! After running ragged, the kids (mainly Toby and Paige, the youngest) refused to sleep and my kids ended up in my bed (where they slept every night thereafter) and Bevin stayed with her girls in Emma's room. 

On Thursday we went to the indoor playground for one of their friends birthdays, and they had a lot of fun...

And then Chick Fil A for lunch!

I was really very nervous about this week, because I know that I find it difficult to sleep when Scott's not here.  Much of that is the safety issue, and we made a decision ahead of time to get a security system installed - for long-term, not just this week!

However, it seems to do deeper than that. I really don't like to be alone, which is odd because for a long time I lived alone and was very independent.  When I started to think about how I handeled that, I realized I had a lot of coping mechanisms.

One thing I still do all the time, is have the TV on.  I like the noise level and distraction it provides.  Music doesn't offer the same thing because there is no visual.

I find myself quite sad, so I look for things to make me happy.  Some people use drugs or alcohol, and I'm not about to go there.  Instead I shop andif I'm home and the kids are in bed there's the internet. Scott did tell me to do whatever I needed to to survive!!

Seriously though, when we're all in bed, every noise or movement drives me crazy.  In the end, it was for my sanity that we resorted to this...

Scott got home the following Saturday evening, with a shirt for Toby, pan pipes and a wooden knife!  (Yes, I took the knife and Toby can have it back when he's older!)

Emma also got pan pipes, and a new dress (not pictured!)

I probably would have discouraged the wind instrument for Emma, if I hadn't already made the mistake of bringing whistles home for both the kids recently.  At first it was apprent Emma would not be able to make it work.  But she was determined and so I showed her how to do it...

Despite the lack of sleep and missing Scott, the week was good for me and the kids.  It was great to be off work again, and there was so much to do that we did not get bored or spend too much time in front of the TV.    And who wouldn't have a great time with these little monkeys...